A father of two teenagers who are each taking sides in their parents’ divorce reached out to Graham for advice on the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association‘s website.
“Our marriage was always a bit rocky, but now it’s ended in divorce. The problem is that our two children (both in their late teens) are taking opposite sides — our son blames me, while our daughter blames her. Is there any way to get them both on the same page?” he asked.
Graham responded in a Q&A published on Wednesday that the problems will not “necessarily be quickly resolved.”
“Divorce wasn’t part of God’s original plan for marriage — but sadly, it’s still a reality. It shouldn’t, however, be treated casually or as a quick escape from our problems,” wrote Graham.
“[D]ivorce almost always brings with it a host of negative emotions and practical problems that are not easily erased.”
Graham went on to list three things the father — and all parents — should do to restore his relationship with his children.
“First, accept the situation. In other words, don’t constantly bring up the past with your children or argue with them; it seldom changes anything. Second, believe in the healing power of God’s love. Pray for both your children,” continued Graham.
“Third, contact — that is, do all you can to keep in touch with both your children and let them know you love them, regardless of their present attitudes.”
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SOURCE: The Christian Post – Michael Gryboski